The whole self-love thing is being talked about a lot right now, and with good reason. It’s become conventional wisdom that we’re all supposed to love ourselves, no matter what our relationship status. The common phrase being ‘the most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself’. However, most people still aren’t sure what self-love even means, how to go about it, where to start or what to call it. With that in mind and with Valentines day messages all around us, now is a good time to remind ourselves of the basics and how we can show ourselves some more love.

Self-love means different things to different people. It’s such a personal thing and everyone has different ways of showing self-love. The good thing is that the more attention you give your self-love practice, the more it will grow.

Self-love can be all of these things and more…

Being proud of what you’ve achieved. Embracing the things that make you different. Allowing yourself to dream big. Owning your inner and outer beauty. Making time to do what you love. Allowing yourself to make mistakes and not criticising yourself for them. Appreciating and accepting yourself, all of yourself!

Unfortunately, many of us will not love and appreciate ourselves fully until we have achieved a particular goal, be it losing weight, getting the job or the pay-rise, or the boyfriend/girlfriend and so on. But, if you start to work on your self-love now, you’re more likely to achieve these goals and be the most vibrant and powerful version of yourself.

Since there is no better time than now to get started, let’s dive right in. Do yourself a favour, take a deep breath, give yourself a little hug and have a go at incorporating some of these self-love practices into your everyday routine.


Fill your body with food and drink that nourishes it and makes it thrive. If you are properly fuelled you will have more energy to do the things in life that you love. Feeding your body nutrient-rich foods will have you oozing love out of every pore.


Move that gorgeous body of yours every single day and learn to love the skin you’re in. Get those feel good endorphins swimming around your body on a daily basis. Spending time stretching and strengthening your body will help you to connect to yourself and appreciate all the wonderful things it does for you.


Have a digital detox and spend some time winding down and getting centered. Have a bath, light some candles, put on a face mask, moisturise, make a cuppa, get cosy and read a book. Hygge at it’s best. When you take time out for yourself like this, it’s a chance to unwind and relax. Your mind and body deserve a good rest.


There is a mean critic inside of us that can cause trouble when we believe it. Rule number 1, don’t believe everything you think. Definitely stop the comparisons. There is no one on this planet like you, so you cannot fairly compare yourself to someone else. The only person to compare yourself to is you. Be your own champion by celebrating your wins no matter how big or small. Pat yourself on the back and be proud of what you have achieved. Even if it is getting up on time, drinking lots of water, or smiling at your neighbour.


Everyone needs a support team around them – cheerleaders if you will. Positive energy is contagious, so surround yourself with people who love and encourage you. There’s nothing like spending time with friends and family who empower you to be yourself. Conversely, end all toxic relationships. Seriously. Anyone who you feel drags you down and drains your energy is not worth your time.


Step outside of your comfort zone and try something new. It’s an incredible the feeling when you realise you’ve achieved something that you didn’t think you could do, or you’ve faced a fear. Go and do the things that get you excited but also scare you at the same time. With every challenge comes the opportunity for growth.


Writing a list of what you are grateful for is a great daily habit. It’s inevitable that you are going to have your down days, you are human! But it’s especially important on these days to find at least one thing you are grateful for as it helps to shift your perspective to focus on the positives.

If you find your head swimming with thoughts, empty it onto paper. No matter how crazy, mean, sad, or terrifying they are. Write it in your journal, or burn it. Either way, let it go.


Set aside time to do what you love. Doing what you enjoy and are good at is a self-esteem booster. It will not only boost your endorphins, but will bring out the best version of you. If you love to cook, then cook. If you love yoga, get your butt to a class pronto! Most importantly, keep up the routine of doing the things that bring you joy.

Be patient and persistent. It’s something that needs to be practiced daily but can take a lifetime to master. So be kind and support yourself through the hard times. Love is a choice, so make the choice to put some time and energy into loving every little bit of yourself, starting now!

Ahhh, I feel better already 🙂

Ruth x

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